Its another week, and I so excited to share more with you guys again this week. This week I wanted fun and something really relevant the unbelievably can fit everyone right now, I know the title doesn’t seem like it but Trust me it does
Okay lets start with the definition of single from Webster, there was a few, but the ones I like to use from their definition is : Consisting of a unique whole Individual , Unbroken and undivided. And wow that says a lot right there. Being single is not just a state of relational status but a state of where you stand all on your own. Being unique , whole, unbroken and undivided individual has to be a standard no matter where you are in your relationship status
Right now I’m in single not married status and I found myself now finally being truly okay with that because to me now , single does not mean lonely, sad, lacking or something is wrong with me. Honestly being unmarried again was something i was scared of because of society and image it places on divorced mother of three, like it is the end and will be a struggle for a long time coming. Now, I’m not say life is easy in this season but learning to understand singleness and the benefits of it is something to appreciate and take advantage of during this time.
One thing about learning to be single is becoming whole and unbroken, which is the work only you can do rather your married or unmarried , dating or in situationships. Becoming a whole single person consist of getting to know you for who you are at every level and understanding where you are in areas then working on fixing and building those areas in your life, and everyone has areas that can be elevated or fixed no matter where we are in life. whole kind of collides with word unbroken because something that is whole can’t be broken, that doesn’t mean it can’t have cracks or imperfections but still be whole. So knowing that being whole and unbroken does not mean you won’t have flaws or imperfections, it means that you are aware, accept and understand your imperfections are there to keep you unique and an individual but also there to keep you humbled to know that now matter how beautiful you are, how much you have and what you have accomplished that your not perfect, because there is no perfect person. So the Beauty of Becoming whole and unbroken is filling the cracks with the positive that make you who you are and picking up that pieces in life that broke you and understanding no matter how broken you were or now are , all broken things can be put back together with the right work and time invested in your unique single self.
You know understanding single is knowing that stewarding over myself is so important and stewarding over who i give myself, my time , my energy and my intimacy to is vital to protecting my single self. Because as being single we have the option to choose who, how , what and with whom we will spend our time with and invest energy into. I realized that I can’t offer all these things to everyone because not being particular can be draining , a waste of my time and others time and time is way to valuable especially as i age, My time is already limited and i don’t have time to waste. But I’m enjoying this new Single , unique , woman I am today, because she is woke now and there is no stopping her. So I challenge you to get to know who you are for who you are , not defined by children, husband , family or friends but defined YOU and who created you. Learn more and more about yourself daily, embrace all the things about yourself , yes flaws and all. Correct things about yourself while loving yourself and give yourself a break and allow yourself to make mistakes and learn. I challenge your as I have challenged myself to make self care a priority because if I don’t take care myself I can’t take care of others and that pertains to mind, body and soul. And lastly Affirm yourself daily , encourage yourself and let yourself know that no matter what you are an amazing, unique , wonderfully created and here for a purpose with your Awesome Single Whole Self
Because even when your in Marriage there is nothing like being a whole, single person, because when two whole , single people come together in unity it is even More beautiful. So take these steps one sip at a time daily but make sure your SIPPING on your SINGLE SELF.